I've been viewing various message boards over time, and not only am I beginning to notice that there are a lot of Asian men, but I've also noticed a general worry about being an Asian guy and being the least desirable type of man there is. I'm noticing a general frustration with not being able to date outside of your race, but having what Asian women there are, taken away by white men. And what do women say? I know of at least three women that I've dated that say that they either won't date Asian men, and I know of at least two that have slept with Asian men and say that the stereotypes about Asian men are true (penis size). That being said, you probably believe that since I'm a black guy with a big dick that I don't have to deal with fighting stereotypes about black men. Wrong. The only advantage that black men have over Asian men, is simply being masculine. And the last time I checked, any type of man has the ability to be masculine. When I came to Ohio State and looked at some of the Asian men, I thought to myself "These guys are fucking dorks! What the hell happened!?". Why? Because they weren't anything like the Asian men I grew up with. The Asians I grew up with weren't scrawny, they weren't feminine, and they weren't to be anyone's bitch. To give you an idea, the Asians I grew up with hung around black guys. So you can guess what they did. The only difference, was the color of our skin. They were just as thuggish, just as masculine, and they sure as hell didn't go around crying like a bitch about not being able to get a girl. In fact, one of my boys (Asian guy) lost his virginity a little after I did in middle school, to a white woman. And another Asian guy had a one of those tall blonde chicks that many of you want. Hell, I wanted to fuck the chick. Enough bantering. The point I want to get across is that your lack of success with women is self-imposed. In other words, you let women treat you the way you expect to be treated. Here's how to change that:
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2. Determine How People Perceive You
It is common knowledge that if you don't immediately decide how people will treat you, then they will determine how you'll be treated. This has been proven over, and over, and over again. People are known to live up to the expectations others place upon them. So what should you be doing? The instant you meet a group of or new woman, you need to let them know that you are not to be treated like the typical Asian guy. In other words, you need to be aggressive, masculine, take the lead, and the instant anyone attempts to disrespect you, put them in their place. It sends a clear message. You are not to be fucked with. You are to be treated with respect. And contrary to belief, you can be a masculine guy that knows how to take charge.
3. Be A Little More Extroverted
You guys are so timid, shy, and afraid to speak your mind. I know I'm shy, but that's because I can be quiet. I'm a 6'4" black guy. People are afraid of me. Most of you Asian guys are tiny, and by being quiet, you're only hurting yourself. Women already see you as effeminate, and by keeping your mouth shut, you're feeding into the stereotypes. At the very least, by being a little more outspoken, women will take notice, and begin to see your differently than she sees the rest of the male Asian population. Women want leaders. And skin color doesn't determine who leaders are. Too many of you fall into the follower mindset without even attempting to be a leader.
4. Change Who You Socialize With
I've noticed that a lot of Asian guys only hang around other Asian men. As I've said before, the Asian guys I grew up with are the way that they are because they hung around players and thugs. Remember, you are a direct reflection of your peer group, so if you're spending all of your time with timid shy guess, why are you surprised that you yourself are also timid and shy? You change that by hanging around other extroverted leader types.
5. Don't Worry About What You Can't Change
I know what penis size means to a man. It can devastate his self-esteem. You have to accept that there's nothing you can do about the size of your dick. You have a small dick? So what? There's nothing you can do about it anyway, so why bother worrying about it? Time, and time, and time again, I've told you guys that it isn't my dick that drives women crazy. It's the psychological aspect behind it ("it" being sex). I spend a great deal of time psychologically building women up before I ever even kiss them. Understand that stereotypes will always be there. You determine whether or not people respect the stereotypes, or whether they respect you as nothing like them (the stereotypes). It's not your race that scares women away, it's your race that scares you away from them. Ask yourself this question: If you never knew what it meant to be an Asian guy, would you still behave as one?